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Give yourself a hug. Too many people forget to do so.

It’s easy to forget how difficult it is to love oneself. The statistics on the State of Self Esteem paint a sombre portrait: 7 in 10 girls believe that they are inadequate in some capacity, be it through their relationships with others, their academic performance, or their appearance. We’re surrounded by images of unrealistic beauty everywhere we go: polished and filtered Instagram images that show us what we don’t have (thigh gap, we’re looking at you) and who we could never measure up to be (are we ever going to be as funny or as Twitter-savvy as the enigmatic Retta? No). 

Remember: you have as many hours in a day as Beyoncé, and even she can’t escape the tyranny of Photoshop.  Lines of wisdom and age etched across one of the most celebrated names of the 21st century are smoothed away to oblivion with the meticulous and instantaneous click of a mouse.

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Photo c/o nymag.com

It seems like there’s an app for everything. But there isn’t an app that will teach you how to love yourself. Luckily, you can teach yourself how to love yourself. No app. No magic wand. The only thing and person you need is you.

Give yourself an enormous hug, hold on tight, and never let go

  • Love yourself with positive affirmations. Wake up and tell yourself that you are beautiful. Say something over the top; something that you can’t resist giving yourself a smile to. Rather than focusing on what you feel inadequate about, congratulate yourself on something that you’re proud about every morning. Even watch cute puppy videos to restore your faith in humanity (yes, that part of YouTube will instantly make your bleak morning a much brighter place)
  • Nourish yourself with nutritious food. Eat well. Drink well. Drink water! Never punish yourself for eating poorly. Focus on what you did right, and do even better the next day.
  • Immerse yourself in an environment of people who encourage you. Communities like PumpUp are wonderful at doing this! Reach out for help when you need it; loving yourself doesn’t always have to be a lonely journey.
  • Compare yourself to nobody. Make each day an opportunity for self-improvement. Congratulate others and support others, but never ever feel inadequate if you aren’t making progress at the same rate as they are. Everybody has different needs, different goals, different bodies, and different circumstances. What makes you unique already makes you beautiful.
  • Forgive yourself. The past is in the past; let it go! Your future is uncertain, but it’s brimming with possibilities. Build upon your past, learn from it, and grow stronger. It helped shape who you are today.

This is how to breathe positivity into your soul

There’s a saying that when we quiet the mind, the soul will speak. In this post, PumpUp member fitnessriss (@carissamarie2 on the app) teaches us how to internalize negativity and #SpreadPositivity through self-awareness.

“To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must find discipline and control one’s own mind.” – Buddha

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Open your mind to the infinite possibilities that inhabit our lives. Ponder the possibility that our lives are molded by our minds. Imagine your life without stress, pain, depression; all the outer negativity from work, school, peers, family, and even personal issues. It can all be mended from within.

Wouldn’t that be relief? Wouldn’t that life be a beautiful breeze? Well, it is. It is freedom of the soul, and it’s more than possible. The change you’ve been waiting for, that part of your life that you’ve been searching for that has been missing, it has been within you all along. Your despair, stress, and worry can be healed beginning with the way you see, think, and how you feel.

 You carry the freedom of your mind, body, and spirit, but it’s up to you to take that freedom and control the emotions and responses you have towards life. Our lives are altered by our reactions and it takes seconds to make that right or wrong decision to react. Indeed, we are only human, but we must be patient with ourselves and think before we act upon a simple emotion. I’m not telling you to bottle up your emotions, I’m telling you to acknowledge the negative ones, breathe in, and search for an easier, less stressful way to react to a situation.

Those few moments of pure awareness within yourself can free your mind of the way you view the outcomes and sometimes negative situations handed to you. But you are saving yourself from the unneeded pain, unwanted alterations, and even unacceptable anger or intolerance. Your reactions to the struggles and situations that this life will bring forth will define your outlook on life. You cannot let the negative ones get the best of you. Your love embodies the best of you and your negative emotions or reactions will only bring you out of touch with that love. No matter what life throws your way, you can overcome it. Always look at situations from all perspectives. Stay mindful of yourself and be aware of your emotions, but again, do not act upon the negative ones. If you breathe positivity into your soul, only a positive brighter life can be viewed through your now aware and tolerant eyes.

Free yourself from the barricaded rooms of stress, depression, and despair. You deserve the light. You deserve to feel the winds of happiness caress your skin. See the world for what it is and realize that only you can truly stop yourself from seeing that beautiful truth. Remember that this happiness and positive perspective of life isn’t something you need to search for – it’s already there with you.

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You possess the ability from within, right now. You can be happy and see this life full of light and feel the love, right now. Once you take hold of that new perspective you are living that life you’ve always wanted, you’ve found what was missing, you have it all in the palm of your hands. Hold it close, practice each day, stay mindful, and remain patient with yourself. You can spread the love and positivity to others, don’t just tell them to react differently, remind them of that self-awareness, and let them see the beauty of a more patient perspective of life.  

Follow Carissa on Tumblr fitnessriss, Tweet her at @risaamariee2, find her on instagram @rissmarie2, and best of all, #SpreadPositivity with her on PumpUp @carissamarie2!