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How to love yourself enough

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This is a post by Abigail B. (@shaudae on PumpUp). Follow her on Tumblr and on her Wordpress blog at Inspiration Served Daily.

So you’re working out. There are all of these hashtags to accompany this (#FitFam, #FlexFriday, #SquatNation, to name a few). But we work out…to what end? To look good, right? 

Work out to let your outside match the beautiful person you are on the inside. Be mindful about what you eat because it has long term effects on your health, and not solely because you want to look good this summer.

Do this for you because you deserve tolook AMAZING. Do this because you deserve a happy and healthy life. The fact is that when you were fat or extremely slender your whole life and you start to achieve your ideal body weight; you begin to love the attention you receive and the hype gets to you; that’s human nature. Do not do this for the hype – itain’t worth it!

We often work out for all the wrong reasons and in turn we achieve short-term goals; or maybe we initially worked out for the right reasons but along the way - somewhere between the compliments, the lingering glances and the followers we gained on the pumpupapp  - we lost sight of the true vision – to be healthy and happy. That’s fine. That’s why I’m here, to help you to change your thought process! 

Now don’t get me wrong….

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.” - Rick Warren

Let’s not be obsessed with ourselves but love ourselves enough…

  1. Love yourself enough to know that you should do this for you and no one else. #TheHypeFades
  2. Love yourself enough to know when to stop – we all know that you want results and we know that you want to share those results with the PumpUp community. But remember: your health is of utmost importance to us – take care of yourself.
  3. Love yourself enough to block out the negative energy from those who doubt that you are capable of achieving your goals – the fact is, some people just love to sip on that Haterade!
  4. Love yourself enough to be happy with who you are, work towards your fitness goal and be happy for others.
  5. Love yourself enough to not lie to yourself and allow people in your life who don’t mean you well – even your so called ‘friends’ – never allow anyone to make you feel less of yourself – you are enough.

I’ve been there - fat, sad and alone.  It took me awhile to live up to my own advice. It took me awhile to remove the veil from my eyes so that I could see that I was not being healthy but I was destroying myself physically and mentally and allowing others to destroy me mentally as well. When I realized that I was enough, I came to the conclusion that I should love myself enough to know that I can workout at my own pace and achieve my goals just for me – because I am enough.

Achieve Self-Love then Spread Love…

-        Abigail Brady

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Let's Change Low Self-Esteem into Self Love!

This is a post by Abigail B. (@shaudae on PumpUp). Follow her on Tumblr and on her Wordpress blog at Inspiration Served Daily

"Most fears of rejection rest on the desire for approval from other people. Don’t base your self-esteem on their opinions." - Harvey Mackay

Ever thought that because of how you look people will not take you seriously? As a consequence, you’re hesitant to push yourself to the forefront because you’re afraid of how you they think you look.

Will they like me? Will they really listen to ME or will they just look at how fat or how skinny I am? 

You find every reason to convince yourself and others that you are not the right person for the job, even if others believe in you. Let me tell you right now, DO NOT LIMIT YOURSELF.

"The moment you realize that you were always the right person. Only ignorant people walk away from greatness.”

― Shannon L. Alder 

We are on a journey together. What you weigh right now is not the final you! Don’t give up. There are people who will doubt you and who will tell you that your goal does not make pragmatic sense. Don’t listen to them. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone; strive to become better than you were yesterday - for YOU. When people criticize you, they’re just jealous - that’s the truth.

This is a progress photo from Abigal: she’s lost 15 pounds this month!

I can say all this because there was a time when I thought that self-esteem was derived solely from how you look. So I was afraid to go out; afraid to speak up; afraid to go to the gym because I was extremely body-conscious; afraid to have confidence; afraid to develop my skills and excel in everything I do because I was afraid of what people would say about me - how I look and how dare I have so much confidence, looking like that. Over the years I have come to realize that self-esteem is, above all things, loving who you are and appreciating where you are in life and working each day to become better, to be one step closer to self-actualization.

"Your self-esteem won’t come from body parts. You need to step away from the mirror every once in a while, and look for another reflection, like the one in the eyes of the people who love you and admire you." - Stacy London 

So in 2015 and beyond - love yourself. Be the most positive and determined person you know. We cannot truly encourage others and not encourage ourselves. Do not let ANYONE control your emotions and define what you think of yourself. No more low self-esteem; self-love then spread love.

- Abigail Brady

I didn't achieve my New Year's Resolution last year, but I will this year. Here's why

In it to win it

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This is a post by Abigail B. (@shaudae on PumpUp). Follow her on Tumblr and on her Wordpress blog at Inspiration Served Daily

My New Year’s Resolution for 2014 was to get fit and be at my goal weight of 120 pounds by December 2014. As we all know by now, that didn’t work out as planned. My New Year’s Resolution for 2015 regarding being at my goal weight of 120 pounds has not changed but this time I will be at my goal weight by June 2015 and I will maintain it – watch me do it.

This is how I plan on accomplishing my New Year’s Resolution goal:

  • Working out - I will work out at least 4 times every week, listen to my personal trainer’s advice and stick to my diet regardless of how good fried chicken and rice and peas smells. (If you can’t tell, I’m Caribbean!)
  • Motivation - I will motivate myself every day to accomplish my goal. When I’m motivated I work harder and I feel more energized. I know that there will be days that I won’t feel like working out and I will want to eat a double whopper from Burger King. I have an amazing team of supporters, which includes family members, friends, my personal trainer and my 24 hour support team – my PumpUp family. Y’all are amazing!!
  • Delayed GratificationAs an extension of motivation, I will reward myself during my transformation process. I will not reward myself with food, but with a manicure or a pedicure or a complete spa day, I deserve it! 
  • I will be honest with myself – The truth is, we sometimes lie to ourselves. Ever had any of these thoughts: “Two slices of cheesecake won’t hurt”, “I should eat this ice cream – my body needs the calories”, “After my workout, I’m gonna be a couch potato and I need a small bag of potato chips to do that”? These are all lies. coaxing yourself to eat a bag of potato chips for 4 minutes, then spending 15 minutes working off the calories is not fun, I know this. I will be honest with myself regarding my limits, the fact is; I’m not advanced at this ‘gym life’ therefore my body needs time to adjust. Don’t try to do 4 sets of 20 ‘sit ups’ and you can’t do 3 sets of 16; everything in moderation!
  • I will also appreciate my transformation process – We work out and expect to see immediate results. This isn’t realistic. We gain weight over time. Therefore, the process to lose weight will not be done overnight.

I’m sure the process to keeping my New Year’s Resolution will be one filled with tears, excitement, pain, and happiness. I’m in it to win it!

- Abigail Brady

I lost motivation during my fitness journey, then found it again. Here's how.

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(Image c/o Quotz.co)

This is a post by Abigail B. (@shaudae on PumpUp). Follow her on Tumblr and on her Wordpress blog at Inspiration Served Daily

On my first day at the gym in January 2014, I worked out for 2 hours and I thought I would have lost about 5 pounds. I felt like I did. Then I went home and I weighed myself – I was the same weight! The next day, I went to the gym and worked out harder. Still the same weight. I was upset! By day two, I thought I would have been able to lose about 8 pounds. On day three, I decided that I would not return to the gym, I mean, what would have been the point?

While walking to my dresser, I looked at myself and didn’t like what I saw. Obese and unhappy: that had become my life at the age of 21 weighing 185 pounds at 5’2”.  In that moment, I did not return to the gym. In that moment, I cried. A lot. Then I made a decision to stick to my workout routine, even if I only kept it for two weeks. I only lost 5 pounds; I continued to motivate myself with post-it quotes on my dresser mirror and reminder alarms in my phone.

In February, March and April, I stopped working out. I found a variety of reasons not to transcend my mental barriers towards a healthier lifestyle. I returned to the gym in May 2014, 195 pounds and once again, unhappy. I still felt disappointed when I only lost 5 pounds in 2 weeks, but I felt more accomplished, I felt healthier, I felt more energized and most importantly I was happy with my slow but steady progress.

Since May, the journey has not been easy. However, I have realized that if you want something, you have to want it twice as hard. Even if you lose half of the weight that you wanted to lose, push yourself. Half of the obstacles are in your head. Let’s face it, no one wants to be obese. As hard as the transformation process is, we must visualize our goal and work towards it in spite of temptations and naysayers.

I am not the spokesperson for motivation. I am just a young lady who wants to live a long and healthy life. Of all the options we have in life, we only have one body. The results of working out are worth the pain. Stay motivated!

“Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose.” - Lyndon B. Johnson

We must push ourselves! Demolish the mental obstacles, no one will do it for us. It’s December 2014 and I’m 177 pounds, my goal weight is 120 pounds by June 2015. Take this journey with me.

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This is a post by Abigail B. (@shaudae on PumpUp). Follow her on Tumblr and on her Wordpress blog at Inspiration Served Daily